Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Is love just infatuation or is it real?

Could love possibly be just infatuation? It always seems so excessive and impulsive, like something acting with thought.

I’ve always thought that even Romeo and Juliet may just be infatuation. And I know this is a long shot so please don’t get all upset but I always thought that they just rushed into things too much. It’s was all too quick and it felt like the head over heels type of thing. It didn’t seem rational.

I think real love is being in a loving relationship. You can never have too much, you always need a balance of everything, like in food nutrition. As quoted in All Time Low’s song Too Much:

“We were so smothered in love, we didn’t have a chance to come up for air. What a waste. Where did our time go? Where did our minds go? I don’t know. … Too much of anything is too much. Too much love can be too much. We had too much time, too much us and we fought like tomorrow was promised.”

As well as Shia LaBeouf:

“There’s a difference between being in love and being in a loving relationship. ‘In love’ is infatuation. ‘Love’ is when that love dies down and you’re just there.”

Often, the best relationships are the one’s between friends. There is never too much love, it’s never too intense, but there is love between two people that care a lot for each other. It may not be as passionate although they must be more than just friends for it to work, but often these are the most successful situations.

This is shown in Valentine’s Day, now I don’t remember the names but Ashton Kutcher’s character’s friend’s marriage works because the couple started out as friends. He does mention this in the film.

I also believe that even though tons of people my age (I’m 14 by the way) have boyfriends and say they’re in love and stuff but I don’t believe that that is fully possible at this age, I believe that most relationships at this age are based on infatuations and that’s why most end pretty quickly. But some that don’t end are maybe just long infatuations but I don’t believe that they are in proper relationships.

Proper relationships require one big thing that isn’t much of an issue to teenagers, and that’s commitment. Commitment is really important in ‘grown up’ relationships and people often breakup because of this but at our age, that’s not a big issue. For teens it’s just having a couple that like each other and that’s about it. Sometimes there might be a bit more but as my mum said:

“At this age, boyfriends are just like more than friends.”

I know there are people that just hook up and that’s also infatuation, all those people want is some fun with some guys you aren’t close too.

And I’m also not trying to say that couples always have to start out as friends, sometimes for some people that isn’t the best option, some people who are too close as friends may occasionally have something more, and try it out but sometimes it doesn’t work because they are just too close as friends. This has actually happen before to myself.

I’m sorry if this whole thing bored you, it was just an anecdote of my thoughts that make me question stuff. If you don’t like it then that’s not my problem, unfollow if you want, but this is me.

But I do have no intention in offending anyone and this post wasn't directed at anyone particular.

This whole post about love was totally random but I have always wondered about this. And I know TONS of people will have totally different opinions to me, and I would love to hear them.

Now, I know tons of people who read this don't have blogger connect with my via my facebook or msn (if you're my friend IRL) or tell me on my ask page on my tumblr.



applecherriemango said...

that was actually prettah interesting. :)

applecherriemango said...

(NOT SAYING THE OTHERS ARENT INTERESTING. LOL) it just made me think about it.